Self-love is something we hear all the time.
We want more abundance and growth as humans and especially as women we desire more love and closeness.
We wish to have more self-esteem and self-acceptance.
Here are two ways to build our self-love and self-acceptance from within:
1.Physique Centered Self-Acceptance
Physique-centered self-acceptance essentially means how we accept ourselves in terms of our physique. It reflects the way we view ourselves and look at our figures, our bodies, our outlook and appearance.
A lot of people tend to not accept themselves, not love themselves based on their physique. This plays a big role in our lives because a lot of people consider their value and worth based on how they look and appear, and what other people think about them in terms of appearance.
What you want to do if you find yourself struggling with accepting yourself physically is that you really want to get in the mindset and start saying ‘I love myself, I love my height, complexion, shape, and size. They are all very elegant and worthy of love so I choose to love every bit of myself including my spots, pimples, stretch marks, even if my breast are small or saggy or are not a certain weight, no matter what, I love myself.’
Love yourself through the process and walk through it in a loving way with all delicacy and love.
I want you to really think of your body as a temple and a very precious place where only special people have access to. Remember that every bit of your body deserves to be looked upon with love, caressed with affection and admired with devotion by you.
This is the foundation of self-love, start by loving yourself physically and that will make it easier to love yourself in all terms organically.
Everyday wake up and tell yourself ‘you’re beautiful, elegant and worthy of love.’ Make it a regular practice to say positive affirmations and look at your body with all love and happiness you can.
2.Performance-Centered Self-Acceptance
This Is about the kind of work that we have done and the kinds of things that make us want to do more work, be perfect and wait until everything is a hundred percent right in order to actually embrace ourselves.
This is a mindset block that all of us go through.
We spend a lot of time in our life to get other’s approval and validation. When someone else praise us, it feeds our ego and makes us feel great and that is why we really want to do more and more of that.
The performance centered self-acceptance is to really catch yourself when you are doing something in order to have someone else accept you or praise you, value you or like you.
You overcome this gradually by tapping into your worthiness and not letting other people dictate what you are worth. Take the conscious decision after catching yourself and check-in with yourself by enhancing positive self-talk and affirmations to remind yourself of your worthiness.
A lot of us grew up in families where we received more praises because of our performance in school or when we did the chores, which in turn made us want to do more and more. In a really subconscious way, it makes us not want to accept our flaws or accept ourselves just the way we were.
The performance centered self-acceptance is when we go a long way to accept ourselves and accept the fact that we are not perfect and embrace the flaws.
When we are in the performance mode, we are trying to show others our value, and wanting to be chosen.
The performance centered self-acceptance points out three things:
1. When we are in a mindset of truly overworking and overthinking and have the psychology that the more we do for others the more appreciation we will get, this just feeds on other people taking advantage of us and living us frustrated.
2. You feel that you are not good enough so you have to do more and more in order to be qualified. Once you release that and embrace yourself that those wouldn’t matter and you’ll attract those in your vibes and weed out the others.
3. When you are about releasing all of the factors that have been holding you back, the validations and acceptance, try not to be a people pleaser and shift your attention back to yourself, you start tapping into your self-acceptance.
Recognize what your boundaries are and really tapping into it as opposed to pleasing people, that is when you can really come to a conclusion when you can really accept yourself from the inside out.
All in all, our self-love comes from how much we genuinely and deeply accept ourselves.
We want to give ourselves the love that comes with honor and respect for ourselves. We recognize that we deserve to be treated with kindness and dignity and we demonstrate this through the way we love ourselves. The more you make it a habit to honor your feelings and acknowledge them, the closer you get to fully accepting yourself.
Amena helps women gain clarity & confidence in their purpose by connecting to their feminine energy.
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